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Communication breakdown

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Like is the art of conversation like dead?

 

Dating can be exciting, challenging, amazing and yes, terribly stressful all at the same time. There are many factors that you can control though, that can take a bit of the pressure off you in terms of confidence. One thing that is often overlooked and rarely nurtured in today’s culture is the art of conversation. It seems to me that our grasp of the English language has certainly slipped over the last 20 years or so. People use double negatives and filler words like “basically” and “like” and “nome sane” so often that it’s akin to a hunt for buried treasure to find out what they are actually saying. So no, I actually don’t know what you are saying! Read More

Beat The January Blahs

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January…blah! Even writing the word just makes me shudder. I think of cold grey, white, slushy blue and wet boots, red nose and numb fingers and toes. And yet, it is a part of our life and rather than be miserable, let’s find something good about January!

Well for one thing, it is fun to search for singles on local chat lines. Get cozy or even more fun; dress sexy! You’d be amazed how that can change your attitude on the phone!

January actually is named for the Roman God Janus the God of doorways and gates, of beginnings and transitions. Read More

Resolute resolutions

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Getting it together

 

Happy New Year! We hear it a lot but there’s so much pressure involved in the new year. Resolutions, taking down the decorations, getting out of debt all the things we want to do as quickly as possible. Making resolutions stick is really hard. Keep them reasonable and achievable. No more than 5 and make it something that will really improve your life. When searching for singles online see what other people are making for resolutions this year, I always find it interesting to hear what other people want to accomplish. Sometimes it gives me ideas for my own set of resolutions. In general the most popular resolutions are; Read More

The “Still Single?” Stigma

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Say that ten times fast, betcha can’t!  lol well tongue twisters aside, being single can seem like a life twister too. For some unfathomable reason, people have a hard time seeing each other single.

Why it’s almost as if, well if one of us has the courage to make up our own  mind about our own life and most especially our own relationship status, then it must mean that the paired up among us are what? Too easily influenced by others and DON”T have the courage to make their own decisions in life? hmm? Could that be the real reason we get hounded at every family gathering, Christmas party etc. asking about whether or not we’ve found someone to leave stinky, balled-up socks under our beds?

Just how much of our relationship status is dependent on peer/parental pressure? Not to mention good ol’ society as a whole.

Traditionally it has been the role of the human being to pair up and stay that way and raise little tax-payers. But this is the age of enlightenment and it’s time to live life that way you want it. Quantum physics teaches us that there are infinite possibilities when we aren’t looking and only one when we look right at it. Meaning if all you are shown is one route, that’ is the route you will take, when, just on the periphery of your vision, there are so many unexplored paths! Choosing your own does indeed take courage but don’t you deserve the right to live your life as you want? Within the confines of the law of course J  (Editor making me say that!)

Being single is a glorious state of being for the self-confident but also for the self-exploring. Certainly you must love yourself and know yourself first before paring up with someone else. The journey to you is as fun and exciting as any journey can be.  I love travelling alone. The choice of where to go, to whom I can speak, what to do, what to eat, all up to me and no one to please but myself. Imagine life that way!  When someone poses that tired old question about being single, just tell them you are getting to know yourself first. You are not just going to settle for the first person who wants you just to please someone else.

 

These are some of my favourite things about living alone (when I lived alone!)

1 King sized bed all for me!

2 The only disgusting, stinky, balled-up socks under the bed are mine. unless they were left there by an overnight guest. In which case I just throw them out!  Which brings me to the next point…

3 Hook-ups….nuff said about that one, it is a way to sometimes get free socks!

4 Mo Money, my money is all for me!

5 Farting….no one needs to know whether or not I actually do it…which I definitely DON’T!

6 Hobbies, OK, so I like to make Adventure Time characters out of plasticene! I don’t need anyone judging me on that!

 

7 Friends! This is a big one. I love my friends and maybe they are weird but I love weird! I hate having to justify my friend’s behavior to my sig-other. I also hate asking if they can come over.

 

8 Ice cream and chips…yes I eat them sometimes, sometimes I just might dip one into the other…just saying….my ice cream, my chips, my money, my place!

 

9 I love yous

Sometimes I don’t want to say it right after you do. I’m not a parrot. I will say it when I feel it or maybe never.  I certainly say it to my dog a lot!

And that brings me to my favourite reason to stay single-

10 MY DOG! Or whatever pets you have. I can have him on the bed, in the car, in the darned shower if he wants to go in there and no one can tell me not to!

 

Well Kiddies, that’s my take on singleness and just living your life the way you want in general. Always listen to your own mind and please yourself first….as long as you are never rude! I hate rude.

 

where’s the substance?

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Who doesn’t love a good origin story, right? Batman and his parent’s night at the opera ruined by a crazy clown asking weird riddles whilst pointing a gun. The Bionic Woman’s  parachute failing to open, Mr. Magoo, falling into a vat of acid….OK, THAT never happened but it would’ve explained his terrible eyesight! Right?

So last night I’m getting a glass of soda pop for my beloved when it occurred to me, cuz that’s the kind of random jumbly-joo that goes through my head non-stop, that all of the things that used to really have a solid reason for existence are just sort of fluffy meaningless filler these days. Read More

To Drink or not to drink, that is the question

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Should you quit drinking?

 

We all love drinking to some degree. It seems it is an integral part of our lives in the culture we live in. It is firmly enmeshed in our lives in some way or another. Alcohol to celebrate, the “God I need a drink days” and the summer day cold beer is an absolute must. All of our movies, TV, books, stories we share with friends, stories our parents told us, we all have alcohol stories. But is it necessary in our lives and just how much damage does alcohol do? Is it worth it? Would we be able to have as much fun without it? With it? Let’s have a look at our lives and see; should we give up drinking? Read More

DST-Just what is it and why does it mess up my life?

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Spring forward and Fall back. That’s how I always remember which is which. That joyful time in the fall when, if at the pub or the club, you get an extra hour before last call…and on the converse side that dammit moment when you realize you get one less hour of fun that night!  Not to mention having to catch up on sleep somehow and being late for everything for a week or so and that weird feeling that it is either too light out or too dark out. Read More

Grab February by the…er..blahs!

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Now that Valentine’s Day is over, however do we get through the rest of this miserable month? We’ve gone through our self-assessment, house-cleaning, wardrobe inspection and still we have the rest of February to deal with. Now is a good time to find some local activities to get involved with. We had a wonderful snowshoe hike through one of our local popular nature trails and it was just wonderful! Sure the cold air seared our lungs but laughing with others as we figured out how to navigate the terrain with ungainly snowshoes was hilarious and challenging, as well as giving us a much needed cardio workout. Read More